If you’ve been dreaming about your partner cheating, things may feel super-duper stressful. But take a breath and relax – it doesn’t mean your partner is actually cheating on you or that something’s wrong with the relationship. Dreams about cheating can represent a range of feelings, including insecurity, vulnerability, fear, betrayal, or even feeling smothered in the relationship.
But one thing’s for sure – there are so many shades and nuances to this very common dream – especially if you are spiritually sensitive and emotionally open.
So let’s go through nine spiritual meanings of this dream and what could be in store for you!
1- Dream your partner cheated with someone you know
First, you might have a dream that your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you with someone you know.
If this happens, it could mean that you’re feeling insecure about the relationship and unsure if your partner is really committed to you. Maybe you’re concerned about their loyalty or if they are really telling the truth.
It’s also possible that this dream reflects a fear of betrayal in general, whether it’s related to your current relationship or an experience from the past.
It’s important here to consider who the person was that they cheated with because they could hold key to what this really represents for you.
For example, let’s say you have a sibling who is always getting into trouble and you had a dream that your partner cheated on you with them.
This could mean that, deep down, you fear betrayal and being taken advantage of by people who are close to you – even if it’s not your current relationship.
2- Dream your partner cheated on you then left you
Dreams where your partner cheats on you then leaves can symbolize a fear of abandonment. They could represent an underlying fear in your relationship that your partner will eventually fall out of love with you or leave you for someone else.
Such dreams could be related to feeling significantly more invested in the relationship than your partner, which is making you worry that they are no longer interested in you.
It might also be a sign of feeling like you’re not good enough for them, or even feeling like the relationship is starting to become too much for your partner and that they may leave soon.
In either case, this dream reflects a fear of the unknown and an inability to trust that your partner will stay with you.
3- Dream that your partner cheated but you stayed with them
Dreams where your partner cheats on you but you still stay with them could be a sign of feeling like they have the upper hand in the relationship.
Not like it has to be dramatically different, but you might feel like you love them more than they love you.
This could also reflect feeling like you don’t have the power to make decisions in the relationship and that they are always going to be able to get away with bad behavior.
It could also be a sign of not wanting to admit that your partner has done something wrong and, instead, trying to sweep it under the rug and just pretend as if nothing ever happened.
But your subconscious mind and your intuition will never lie to you – especially if you are self-aware enough to pay attention to these signs in the first place!
4- Dream your boyfriend or girlfriend married someone else
This one can be very distressing, especially if you and your lover haven’t been on the same page recently.
Like if you want to get married and settle down, but they keep saying they’re “not ready”, then you start to have dreams they are marrying someone else than you.
That can be really trippy! And can also make any current trust issues 10x worse!
But it usually means you’re afraid that your timelines aren’t matching up, and like if you don’t lock things in right away, you’ll miss out.
Pay attention to other aspects of this dream.
Who were they marrying? What was the energy like? Was it a happy or sad occasion?
These clues can help you gain insight into where your lover is at and how they are feeling about commitment.
It might also be that this dream is reflecting an underlying fear that you’ve become too attached to them and won’t be able to cope if they decide to move on.
Either that or some area of your relationship is suffering from a lack of attention.
5- Dream your partner had a secret affair
If you dream your partner cheated on you and then you found out later, this one is tricky.
One thing it could mean is that you feel like your partner is withholding something from you – like if they’re not telling you the full truth and are hiding something.
This could range from anything from emotional connection to sex life mismatches.
It could also mean that you feel like your partner is taking advantage of you or manipulating the relationship in some way.
Another interpretation could be that, deep down, there’s a fear that your partner doesn’t really love you and is only with you because they have to be.
Whatever the case, if this dream is recurring it’s important to take some time to reflect on what could be triggering it in your life.
It’s important to note that just because you have a dream about your partner cheating it doesn’t mean you think they’re cheating in real life.
The cheating is a symbol of something else that brings you fear or insecurity.
Don’t go thinking that they’re definitely cheating because of a dream!
Instead, look inward and see if there’s anything else you feel iffy about.
I know in the past I’ve had dreams about my partner cheating with another woman but I would come to find out later there was a financial infidelity they were committing.
You need to keep your mind and eyes and heart open and most of all be honest with yourself about what you already think and suspect.
6- Dream your partner was getting close with someone else
If you have a dream that your partner is getting close with someone else, it might be telling you something about the relationship.
Maybe there’s an area where you feel like your connection has drifted away and neither of you are making an effort to reach out anymore.
And now it seems like they’ve found someone who can help fill that void in their life.
On the other hand, it could just be a sign that you are feeling insecure about your relationship and need to talk to your partner about it – instead of letting the insecurity fester inside of you.
It’s important to reflect on why this dream is showing up so frequently, and then take action based on what you uncover.
Sometimes all we need is a bit of reassurance from our partner that everything will work out just fine.
Much like other cheating dreams this one could represent your feeling like you’re drifting away, growing apart, or not on the same page in one or more areas the way you used to be.
Like especially when major life events take place – if you’re not in lock step with each other you can manifest a cheating dream because of that insecurity.
I had an ex when I was in college and he wasn’t, for example.
The relationship was lots of fun – very free…
But when I graduated and got a full-time job that required I change my lifestyle around, I started having these dreams and I knew it’s because we weren’t on the same page really.
I hope that makes sense!
But yeah you’ll have to look inside yourself (and talk with your partner) to figure out what the dream is really trying to tell you.
Be honest and patient with yourself, and you’ll figure it out.
Just don’t hide from the truth because it will always find you!
7- Dreams about being cheated on with a family member
If you dream about your girlfriend or boyfriend cheating on you with a family member, it could be that the family member is a symbol of something you feel like your partner is not giving to you.
It could be that they are withholding love or attention, or that there’s some sort of emotional distance between the two of you.
Or it could be that you simply don’t feel like your partner understands what matters most to you – and the family member in your dream is a representation of someone who does understand.
It’s important to take some time to reflect on why this dream might be happening so frequently, as it could be trying to tell you something about your relationship.
If you’re feeling like something isn’t quite right, then reach out to your partner and talk to them about it.
Sometimes all we need is a bit of reassurance that everything will work out just fine – so don’t be afraid to ask for it!
8- Dreams of your partner cheating in front of you
Dreams where your partner is cheating in front of you can be one of the most difficult to interpret and one of the hardest to take.
There’s a sense of betrayal here, and a general feeling like you don’t think they care about or value your feelings.
But what are these dreams really trying to tell you?
It could be that the dream is simply a reflection of how you feel about your partner and the relationship – scared, vulnerable, and betrayed.
Or it could mean that there’s a disconnect between the two of you that needs to be addressed.
Sometimes it can actually mean that there’s a lack of sexual fulfillment between the two of you in your relationship.
The thing is, though, if that’s the case, you likely already know it and don’t need a dream to tell you what’s going on.
9- Dream that you were cheating on your partner
Last but not least, just as a dream that your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you can be unsettling, it can also be problematic in reverse.
What if you have a dream about cheating on your partner?
This could symbolize a feeling of disconnection or dissatisfaction in the relationship. It could mean that you are feeling emotionally neglected, and that your needs aren’t being met by your partner.
It’s important to recognize this as an opportunity to have an honest conversation with your partner about what is and isn’t working in the relationship.
Taking the time to address these issues can help resolve any underlying issues, and ultimately make the relationship stronger.
Frequently asked questions
Now that we’ve gone over the meanings of dreams about cheating, let’s take a look at some frequently asked questions.
1- Should I tell my boyfriend I had a dream I cheated on him?
It ultimately comes down to your own personal comfort level and your relationship dynamic. If you’re feeling like the dream may be a reflection of something that is going on in real life, it might be important to discuss it with him. However, if you feel like the dream isn’t related to anything that’s happening IRL, then there may not be any need to bring it up.
2- How do I stop dreaming about my boyfriend cheating on me?
The best way to stop dreaming about your boyfriend cheating on you is to try and address any underlying issues in the relationship. If there are problems that need to be addressed, talk it out with your partner so that both of you can get back on the same page. Also, if possible, take some time for self-care and reflection to help alleviate some of the stress.
3- My wife dreamed I cheated on her and I don’t know what to do?
If your wife dreamed you cheated on her (and you didn’t) and she’s upset about it, the best thing to do is to reassure her of your commitment to the relationship. Talk openly about what she’s feeling, and take the time to validate her feelings. It may also be helpful to investigate any underlying issues in the relationship that could have caused her fear or insecurity.
Final thoughts
No matter what type of dream you’re having, it’s important to take a step back, breathe deeply, and try to figure out what the dream is really trying to tell you.
Sometimes all it takes is some honest self-reflection and communication with your partner to get you back on track.
Dreams can be powerful indicators of our innermost feelings and desires, so don’t ignore them! Listen to what the dream is trying to tell you – it may lead you down a path that will make all the difference in the end.